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Gods Road To Healing
Isa.61:3
Pastor Deborah Covington
"Abuse" The After Effects Part 1&2
Coming from many years of both physical and emotional abuse, I feel led of the Lord to share ways in which it can have effects on us later in life, men as well can and have experienced abuse,this is for both.
I also want to point out the only way of true and complete healing is through the Lord Jesus Christ.
We are made up of 3 parts, Spirit, Soul (Mind & emotions & Will) and Body. Abuse whether it be physical or emotional will have an adverse effect on us, then and in the future. Hurting people hurt other people.
Many times they come from abuse themselves and we get the brunt of it all. Nonetheless, it is not something to ignore; thinking it will get better, as, actually it generally gets worse. We pay the price.
A lot of times the effects will not show up till later on, maybe in a new relationship, a job, family etc. people outside always see it more clearly than we do. As the adage says" We cant see the forest for the tree's, meaning we are too close to the situation to see right. Our vision is impaired.
Here are what seem to be the most widely effected areas:
Loss Of Self-Esteem
We end up so beat down by verbal slurs and usually for such a long period of time, we actually begin to believe it. This is where problems begin. The enemy always uses the mind to plant his foul seed of lies into. This thought pattern begins to carry over into all areas of our lives, with kids, our family, and even our friends. They notice something is wrong, we are not ourselves, yet when asked what do we say? "We say, no I'm fine, just tired, been awful busy lately, not much time for visiting". Denial, we are embarrassed to be honest, and afraid if we are, more trouble will start.
It is obvious in our change of behavior, attitudes, withdrawing etc. Honestly, we only fool ourselves. No one else.
Physical Abuse
This too effects us emotionally, it really adds to the pain and hurt. It causes us to do things or not do things due to fear of harm coming to us.
We live in fear, not knowing when the next blow will occur, we lower ourselves to give in, just to avoid not being hit again, but I love him/her you say, first off, if there were any love present, this would NOT be going on in the first place, that's part of denial, not wanting to face the fact that the one we thought loved us, is beating us.
The cycle of abuse if not broken can lead to devastation it can lead to death.
No one should live under that. God does not like ugly, he takes notes, we always hear about the Book Of Life, which most definitely he has, but he also has a book of wrongdoing or sin. None of this goes UN noticed.
If we would but call upon his name he will deliver!
I came to Christ in the midst of all the abuse, if it hadn't been for God, I may not be here today.
Do you know Jesus, Is his Lord and Savior of your Life?
Please, if not, make it so, he loves you so very much and wants to save and deliver you.
He is not a respecter of persons, what he did for me; he will surely do for you.
He does not want us mis-treated, hurt, our lives ruined or worse.
We should NOT live in fear and dread, this is all the enemy, sent to destroy.
But in God is Life and Peace and Joy!
So, your next question may very well be what should I do?
First give your life to Christ, if you don't know Jesus, Second get out of the environment & situation, seek help. Thirdly Call the police, ask them for the location of a safe house and get yourself there. Then begin Praising God for your new life and most importantly FORGIVE your abuser. This will release you; God will deal with the rest, Pray for your abuser that they may be free and loosed from that cycle of abuse.
Stay Close to God
Find a good Bible teaching Church and fellowship with your brothers and Sisters
"Old Things have passed away, Behold, ALL things are made new"
2 Corinthians 5:17
Abuse Pt 2: Inner Healing: Where Do I Begin?
Those of us who have been victims of abuse, know well the roller coaster of emotions we ride. From extreme to another it seems. We know something must be done, we then begin to blame ourselves, asking ourselves what did I do wrong/ Saying maybe I do deserve all this, maybe I can change and make it better. But when we get real honest with ourselves, we know it never gets better, it usually gets worse doesnt it? Well, let me say this first off, if I may, I am speaking from "life experience" and by what God through his Spirit has shown me, Im not a counselor or phycologist, nothing is from a book, just the "school of hard knocks" as they say. I am a survivor, but not by my own hand. In these abusive situations we have a tendency to put bad aids on the wounds, and then about the time is begins to scab over, what happens? It get broke open again! They never heal completely, it leaves scars, on our hearts, our minds our emotions, we become calloused in some areas or at least we can. We think its all our faults, then turn to things for relief that we know we shouldnt, but something has to help right? Something does, your right, but not wrong choices, that gets us in deeper, we need the solution , not more problems. Have you heard the phrase " their spirit is broken"? Well, that is closer to the truth than we think. Abuse can break our spirit. We get to where we dont care anymore, dont want to fix our hair, get dressed nice for the day, clean our house, work in yard, visit with friends etc. We develope an attitude that we are not good enough, or what difference does it make, or maybe, someone might see these bruises or they may ask questions. No one deserves to be abused, no one! There is no excuse for abusing another person. This is where inner healing must begin, that innermost pain and hurt, this is definitely an inside job and whoever does it must be very familiar with the area right? Right, and this someone is God, he is our creator, he knows us inside out, and whats even more crucial to know is, "He Wants to "heal" us, physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually! With him, it isnt a band aid, it is true, lasting healing, freedom from all hurt and abuse. God doesnt half do anything, he "completely" heals and free's us. he does not look down on us, he doesnt belittle us, or put us down. He loves us with a unconditional love, that never ends. He is our Father, and he loves his kids. It pains him with each slap, with each hit, with each foul word thrown at us, he takes no joy in seeing this and wants us free. Please if you do not know " Jesus" as your Lord and Savior, stop right here and right now, and make him Lord of your life simply say this aloud: Father I know Im a sinner, I want to be cleansed of all sin and receive forgiveness them, I believe your Son Jesus Christ died for my sins, in my place, rose again and sits at your right hand even now. I believe Jesus is the Son of the Living God, and I ask Jesus into my heart right now, Come into my life Lord Jesus I give my life to you. Fill me with your Holy Spirit, and make me whole in every area of my life, In Jesus Name I pray and Thank you I am born again!
Please if you prayed this prayer, let us at Women Of The Word know so we can Rejoice with you!!! Welcome To The Family Of God!
